Dad’s First Love

A Rare Breed

Are all single dad’s created equal?  Ok, on Fathers Day let’s say they are, but, what about the rest of the year?  Here’s a Dad that really knows how to make his girls feel loved 24/7.   I’m talking loads of daddy time; endless hugs; those ever coveted daddy cheer leading moments; “an open wallet,” as he puts it for clothes, school, etc.; compassionate discipline; emergency rescue (he is a trained Marine); listens like a teddy bear; road trips and vacations; and he knows how to Face Book and text!!!

Rafael Calderon is no standard issue dad.  His life is centered around two exquisitely loved little ladies.  As an eye-witness to his father/bread winner juggling act, I’ve watched him graduate from Cal State Long Beach; focus on film making; and pay the bills through both acting success and his mortgage brokerage firm (Severalty Real Estate in Hollywood, CA) while dedicating himself first to his girls.  He is ever present in their lives as a single co-parent.

The song says, Thank heaven for little girls.  I thank heaven for this rare breed of single fathers (who would help foster more like him).  Sadly, I know too many kids without dads, even kids with dads living at home who do not get this level of interest from them.  So I praise this Gulf War Veteran for his uncommon values.  I have to wonder, what if all children grew up with such an attentive dad?  How would it impact our world?
Like everyone, he is also imperfect and has had to learn from his foolish blunders.   His heart’s desire is to teach his girls to really measure the gravity of good and bad choices.  Like many, he was also raised by a single parent. We’ve had some long spiritual talks about such things.  He is charitable, athletic, a man’s man (my husband loves him), he eats a lot of steamed vegetables, and is clear that Bud sure don’t make you wiser.  But wherever he got the conviction to empty himself on his two kids and to teach them to be givers and not takers… he got it right.  Plus, he has a nephew who gets top billing on his priority list as well.  It was Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis who may have said it best, If you bungle raising your children, I don’t think whatever else you do well matters very much.

My very close friend of 14 years, Rafi, is a dad worth saluting.   So I got him on video.  Surprised him (on his day off) and asked him to talk about raising his babies as a single co-parent.   He humbly obliged me because he’s such a good sport.  I want his two beauties and nephew (also pictured on video link) to have this on record for posterity.

Tell me about single parenting Rafi…

Use the following link to watch Rafael’s video –

Learn more about Rafi’s film projects at:

 And, if you need help with real estate/mortgage related needs, his office phone is 213 738-7485.  I highly recommend his ethical services as well as his associate Elba Chavez.

Wishing you all a phenomenal Fathers Day and thanking my Father in Heaven for too many blessings to count, especially my beautiful husband, aka, Papa Rick.


About Light Stream

Casandra Moreno Lombera is an author, blogger, and Emmy nominated television producer who grew up in Los Angeles, San Francisco, and Denver communities. In junior high school, she promised her single mother that she would get straight A’s in order to graduate early and help her relocate to Aurora, Colorado. She did… and though women and Latinas were scarcely visible in television, she dreamed of a future in broadcast journalism. From an early age, Casandra wanted children and loved to write. She began her career in television (writing and reporting on camera) at the age of 18. She also began raising two very successful children as a single mom. Throughout her career, she became an award winning, television producer/program creator (receiving both the Imagen and Golden Eagle Awards); was executive producer of both public affairs and children’s programming at KWHY-TV, Channel 22; and worked on camera hosting public affairs talk shows for many years. More distinctive opportunities came her way, however her desire to write children’s books and to blaze new trails in the publishing world became irrepressible. Her dreams today focus on empowering youth, writing (particularly about God’s love for them), and raising money for the impoverished through organizations like Hope Worldwide Throughout her life, she has been passionate about hands-on giving to the community and has received many forms of appreciation (including a congressional commendation) for her efforts. She has served on several boards including Communications Bridge Institute, training disadvantaged youth in television production; St. Anne’s, building futures for at risk teens and unwed mothers; HOPE, Hispanas Organized for Political Equality; the American Diabetes Association fund raising committee; and the Consumer Advisory Committee for the California Contractors State Licensing Board. Casandra is also a recipient of La Opinion’s 2012 Mujeres Destacadas (Exceptional Women) Award. She is completely smitten with her husband, two children, and four grand babies who inspired Light Riders. Follow her @casandratweets and @Lightersbook on Twitter. Her blog is at Direct Contact:
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2 Responses to Dad’s First Love

  1. Awsome info and straight to the point. I don’t know if this is truly the best place to ask but do you people have any thoughts on where to get some professional writers? Thank you 🙂

    • Hi Hailey, Thank you for visiting and encouraging! What kind of writers do you need, e.g., for blogs, journalistic assignments, books, etc. Please let me know if I can be of service. Have a great week!

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